"Anyway I think we are talking about the same stuff. "
We are. [img]/forums/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] The pros call it "furp". To keep water from getting behind it you use siliconized caulk on all the seams, behind the J-moulding, corner molding, etc.. Just be sure to wipe off the excess with a wet rag, after a couple of years it turns a crappy shade of yellow. It's best to buy the trim at a wholesale house, the trim is a little wider which makes it easier to hide boo-boo's.